Eva Illouz
Professor, The Hebrew University of Jerusalem
Eva Illouz is a cultural sociologist at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. In her new book, Why Love Hurts, she argues that while love has always had the capacity to hurt, since the advent of modernity it has hurt in new ways as so much more of ourselves is invested in the choice of a partner. And in recent years that choice has expanded exponentially with the emergence of internet dating.
Someone who would suffer a great deal is deemed to be immature.
We now have three domains that are quite distinct: the sexual, the romantic, and the marriage market.
Women must display attributes of care, attributes of femininity, and yet be assertive and independent.
If I were to give you advice on what to tell your daughter, who say, is a 13-years-old adolescent, I would definitely present all kinds of options to her as really valid.
According to the biologist’s view, if we are indeed inherently polygamists, we should have never been as happy as we are today because modernity would seem to enable our real nature to express itself.
For those women who are still interested in the conventional monogamous heterosexual family, the sexual revolution has placed these women in an asymmetrical relationship to men.
We are socialized to blame ourselves when things go wrong in love because that is what is available to refashion when you are in a psychiatrists office. Sociology can help […]
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