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Self-Improvement vs. Self-Acceptance

When does the American spirit of endless self-improvement come at the expense of self-acceptance? Perfection is the enemy of good and can cause stress and dissatisfaction. 
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A survey that once placed American women into two broad categories, the ‘never-enoughs’ and the ‘good-enoughs’, found that the latter category, those more content with their lot in life, led happier personal lives and advanced equally in their careers as the ‘never-enoughs’. One author of that study, Becky Gillespie, says society’s conflicting definitions of success can cause major turmoil: “We need the courage to choose which definition of success we want.”

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Since Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People, it seems like America has been on an endless quest to improve itself. It’s a character trait that other nations find amusing, but for America, the promise of success may carry certain risks. A higher tolerance of income inequality is one result of the attitude, since we are given to believing that the world can be ours if we work just a little harder… The Occupy Wall Street movement may represent a change, that we no longer even want to reach the pinnacle of power. 

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